25 Things I Learned by My 26th Year

My entire life can be described in one sentence : It didn't go as planned, and that's ok

Honestly, when I was turning 17, I thought to my self, in 5 years, I'd be a successful business woman, with a small family, and a beautiful house. But that didn't happen (yet). And I keep the dream and I just stay grateful.

Life is an echo, what you send out, comes back.

If you live your life with jealousy and negative thinking, those are the things you can expect to encounter in your life. Obviously, I'm not perfect. I did some shameful stuff but I moved on and focusing my energy to be a good person inside out.

You do you.

So many people telling you what to do with your life. I'd say, you do you, girl. (or boy if you're a boy). You know what works and what doesn't work. If dieting works better for you than going to the gym, by all means, go on a diet and cancel your gym membership. If being a school teacher is your calling despite your Law degree, go for it. Because you're the one who's living your life.

No one can do it better than you.

I learned this early in my teens because I'm slightly perfectionist. If other people do it and it's not up to my standard, I would just do it all over again by myself. Be self-reliant. Don't be afraid to say “that's not good enough” (kindly and gently, of course) and show them how to improve it.

It's okay to lead a drama-free life.

If there's anything else I hate other than tardiness, it's drama. We are not filming a reality show, stop making such a big deal of everything! Just, you know, be chill.

When people show you who they are, believe it.

I am a big fan of second chances, but if your friend said bad things about you behind your back, even if it's the truth, more than once, stop trusting them. You can be cordial with them but I encourage you to stop hanging out with him/her. I think a friend should be someone who have your back, no matter what.

You will loose friends.

20s are hard because you and your friends will have different jobs, new co-workers, new boyfriends/girlfriends, and you won't see each other every day like back in uni. You bound to loose contact with some of your friends. But don't worry, the one who matters will stick around.

Adult relationship takes energy and time and effort.

You can't expect to stay friends if you never ask him/her how she's doing. Your friend is only one text/phone call away. Make time for your friends. Work is exhausting but you need to show your friends that you are willing to spend the very last bit of your energy to meet them. Show the effort.

In times of trouble, stay silent.

I cannot tell you how many times things didn't go out as I want to and I just stay silent. I didn't say yes, I didn't say no, I didn't complain, and I just let God do the mending and voila, problems solved. And please, please, DO NOT write about your problems online where people can read them. Your problems are yours, own it, face it, fight it. In silence. Let your success and triumph be your voice.

Loving yourself is hard.

It takes years and years of practice to love the personality and the body that I am. I'm proud to be where I am right now because I fought to be her. And yes, there are still days when I feel I'm not good enough, I'm not pretty enough, I'm not smart enough. But hey, those thoughts are even more exhausting to have.

Everybody talks.

You can be the nicest kindest person you've ever met and there will still people who talks trash about you. That's just how people are. Get over it. What Suzie says about Sally says more about Suzie than it is about Sally. Get it?

Strong people encourages other

I cannot say how true this sentence is. If you notice that you always talk down to people when they talk about they dream... You just might be a weaklings. Strong people lift others and encourage people to reach their dream. What if their dream is completely absurd? As long as they don't dream to be a unicorn, you better support them.

You can't save people who doesn't want to be saved.

Some people are stuck in a toxic relationship and you can advice them until you have no voice , but if the person doesn't decide that she/he is going to get out and save him/herself, no one will ever can. Well, except for Jesus, because He's Jesus.

Stalking people is so easy these days

LOL. Not that I advice you to stalk people but if you're feeling a weird vibe from someone, you'd better check their instagram, make sure you see their tagged photos, and check their check ins locations. Never ever not read the comments on their photos. Don't forget to also stalk their brother/sister, and obviously, their group of friends. Because you can always tell how a people is by the friends they choose to hang out with.

Don't get a pet if you're busy

Even if it's just a fish because fishes dies when you don't feed them and clean their tanks. Shocking, I know.

For every few selfies you upload, you need to throw in some landscapes or flatlays or food photos.

Just to make you seem like you're not a narccistic And that you're cool and artsy.

You will never regret being kind.

I think kindness is cool. I think smiling is cool. I think complimenting other is cool. I think saying hi first is cool. Overall, kindness gets you to places.

Things you may not have liked before may not be that bad later on.

True story about me and meat.

Gaining weight is really really easy.

Losing weight is really, really hard.

Family is the most important thing.

At the end of the day, the people you are going to hang out with for the rest of your life is your family. Love them, cherish them, remember their birthdays, and anniversaries. Try to stay on their good side at all times.

You just won't like some people.

Don't feel bad if you don't click with someone, or if someone just makes you want to get out of the room for no reason. Some times things just don't click. And that's okay. You have to be selective with the little time you have to mantain a relationship with.

NOBODY knows what you're thinking.

You want a bouquet of flowers on your birthday? Tell your boyfriend. He'd be grateful you're not being vague because really, guys just not very good at romantic stuff. People can't read your mind, so don't expect them to, and don't get upset when they can't guess what you're feeling.

Choose to be happy

So cliche, I know. But you can't be happy if you don't decide to be happy. Happiness doesn't just happen. You have to consciously choose to be happy all day everyday.

Stay humble, never stop learning.

Even people who is younger than you have something to learn from if you just humbled yourself enough to see it.

Well I hope you enjoyed reading it

Happy Thursday!